Couples Therapy can be a beneficial, healthy solution for those that are struggling in relationships. There are many different reasons that you may find couples therapy a potential solution. It’s possible to be in couples therapy with more than just romantic relationships. Business partners, coworkers, costars, and platonic relationships and friendships may all benefit from couples therapy. It isn’t always about romance or sex.
Couples therapy offers communication skills, smart conflict strategies and works to improve intimacy (1,2). It’s important to go into couples therapy focusing on your communication and be ready to listen and work with your partner.
Here is a list of some of the many different benefits for your to consider:
When couples are struggling, cooperation can be one of the first things to go out the window (1). When the us versus them speech and actions take over, cooperation is something that we can lose. Therapists are a neutral third party that can help you to remember how to cooperate (3). Cooperation is crucial for relationships to be successful. Cooperation can also be helpful when raising children and crucial in coparenting dynamics.
Better support of your partner
Stress can have a huge impact on any relationship. Helping yourself and your partner to reduce and manage stress can help you to focus on the things that matter. Common sources of stresses in relationships can be: family dynamics, the demands of employment, job loss, parenting, health concerns, and other relationships (2,3). While we all have stresses in our life, helping to manage the stresses of everyday life can help you to focus on building and fixing your relationship with your partner.
Focusing on the relationship while dealing with grief
Whether it’s a loss that you have experienced or one that your partner is going through, grief can have a huge impact on any relationship. Helping to support those experiencing grief can be difficult and incredibly delicate. Learning to live through grief while in a relationship can be even tougher. A therapist can help you learn coping strategies and help process your grief and feelings surrounding your loss.
It may seem counterintuitive but learning to fight can be helpful for a relationship. Resolving differences, squashing conflicts before they start, and if things do lead to disagreements, how to be fair and equitable to your partner are crucially important (1,3). Keeping the conversation focused, giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, and ensuring that a solution is the focus instead of breaking down your partner can all ensure that the nature of your fights and disagreements leads to better communication and outcomes.
Conflicts are a part of any relationship. How we overcome disagreements is an important part of a successful relationship. While there are many different reasons for conflicts in relationships, working with a therapist to talk through conflicts can be helpful. They can help work on communication strategies. Disagreements could be from present issues or may be from long-stemming problems throughout the relationship and/or marriage (1,3).
Deal with major life transitions
While there are many transitions in life that you will contend with, these transitions can become difficult when juggling them with a relationship. At the beginning of a relationship to the end of life, transitions are a normal part of life but can be difficult.
Working with a therapist during major life transitions can help ease stress, help learn about yourself, and prepare for changes in your life. Giving your partner support in their times of transition can also be hard to deal with. Learning to cope and live after a change or transition is important to move forward. Getting help during this time can help lead you to success in your transitions and relationships. These transitions could be moving in together, marriage, children, and retirement (2,3).
Therapists can be a sounding board
Therapists are trained to be neutral and help support you. This openness can help to start necessary conversations that you may have been putting off talking about or dancing around the subject instead of meeting it head on. Therapists can give you the courage to broach topics and start needed conversations (1,3).
Issues with intimacy and sex are common reasons to see a couples therapist and are completely normal. While the flame may have died or changes due to age may be impeding the physical portion of your relationship, a therapist can help you navigate the complicated nature of intimacy (2).
Working with a therapist can help you to develop more romance in your relationship, improve you and your partner’s sexual satisfaction, and help to improve the overall intimacy
No matter what concerns you and your partner may be experiencing, having a therapist available to help can increase the success of your relationship. Therapy can help us improve communication, one of the most important parts of any relationship. Therapists encourage couples to state their thoughts and feelings to each other in a clear compassionate way. They also urge you to talk about your desires and the more intimate parts of your relationship also.
Therapists can help encourage you and your partner and build empathy. Connection is a main focus for your therapist to work on with you and your partner. Problem solving strategies and coping with conflict can also be a main focus (1,3).
Incorporating a therapist can be a gamechanger for your relationship. The stigma of couples therapy isn’t what it once was and can help you to build a better relationship for you and your partner. If you think that your relationship needs a major shift or just a tune up, consider adding a couples therapist.