Two New Interviews About Dating Anxiety

“So many people want to run away from the anxiety,” Dr. Engler says. “But, in fact, it’s important to lean into it and meditate on it to understand why you’re feeling the way you do.”  It’s Okay To Pause Your Dating Life During The Holidays, Refinery29 Media

“It’s a particular kind of suspense anxiety,” says Brandy Engler, PsyD, a clinical psychologist. “And I have watched it drive my clients crazy. The ego is what gets you saying things like, ‘Oh, they didn’t text back because they didn’t like me.’ In reality, the reason they’re not texting back could have nothing to do with you. If you take anxiety down a few notches, you tend to have excitement. Ideally, that’s what you want out of the dating experience, for it to be exciting and fun. There is uncertainty, and there is suspense. If you embrace that in a way, you can embrace the enjoyment of the not knowing.”  “Text Back” Anxiety Is Real — Here’s How To Fix ItRefinery29 Media

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